Episode 15: You Don't Need Her Apology to Heal. The Truth About the Mother Wound.

Episode 15: You Don't Need Her Apology to Heal. The Truth About the Mother Wound.

The Unfuckwithable Woman | Hosted by Briony Montgomery, Somatic Therapist and Founder of the Somatherapy Collective

The most common question Briony Montgomery receives, more than how do I regulate my nervous system, more than how do I stop people pleasing, more than how do I get out of freeze, is this:

Do I have to confront my mother to heal the mother wound?

And underneath it always, something softer. Something more frightened. Because I can't. She won't understand. She'll turn it around. She's already gone. Part of me still loves her and I don't want to blow that up.

In Episode 15, the answer is a clear and grounded no. And Briony Montgomery goes further. She actively advises against confronting your mother as part of the healing process. Because confronting her before this work is done puts you back into the relational field that created the wound, without the roots to stand in it.

The mother wound isn't primarily about your mother. It's a rupture in the thread of belonging that should run from you, back through your motherline, all the way to the earth herself. When that thread is broken, often for generations, you feel it as chronic rootlessness, a hunger nothing seems to fill, a body that can't fully rest, a deep nameless grief that visits you in quiet moments.

Your mother was likely handed this wound herself. She received it from her mother, who received it from hers, in the context of a patriarchal extractive culture that has been severing women from their bodies, their knowing, and each other for a very long time. Your mother is not the origin of this wound. She is the carrier of it. And until you do this work, so are you.

Briony Montgomery draws on over 20 years of somatic therapy, Jungian archetypal psychology, energy healing, and decolonised feminine wisdom to offer a pathway of healing that lives in the body, not in a conversation.

In this episode:

Why confronting your mother is not only unnecessary but can actively work against your healing
What the mother wound actually is and why it's bigger than your mother
The Death Mother archetype and where she lives in your nervous system (go deeper in Episode 14)
Somatic practices for tending the wound in daily life including grounding, grief rituals, Death Mother body mapping, and parts work
Why healing your mother wound is an act of cultural revolution
How reparenting yourself changes what you pass forward

Somatic practices covered: nervous system grounding, Death Mother body mapping, grief and rage as portals, core self discovery, ancestral motherline inquiry.

Work with Briony Montgomery

Only 4 one-on-one somatic therapy sessions are currently available. Begin with a free 20-minute clarity session, a gentle grounded space to explore what's alive in you and whether working together feels right.

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